Teen Dating Violence Prevention

Warning Signs of Dating Violence

  • Your dating partner is using threats or violence to solve a problem.
  • Frequent calling and texting to check where you are or who you are with or other jealous behavior.
  • Telling you who you can spend time with, what you can do, or what to wear.
  • Name calling, putting you down, embarrassing you, or making you feel bad about yourself.
  • Making threats towards you, your family, and your friends.
  • Making threats of suicide or self harm.
  • Forcing you to do something you don't want to do.

Teen Dating Violence Prevention Research-Based Curriculum

Below is a list of evidence-based and promising programs to prevent dating violence.

Second Step (Grades K-5)
Committee for Children 
2815 Second Avenue, Suite 400
Seattle, Washington 98121
(800) 634-4449

Safe Dates (Grades 8-9)
Hazelden Publishing
15251 Pleasant Valley Road
P.O. Box 11
Center City, MN 55012-0176
(800) 328-9000

Expect Respect (Grades 6-12)
Safe Place
P.O. Box 19454
Austin, Texas 78760
(512) 267-7233

Ending Violence Curriculum (Grades 9-12)
Break the Cycle
Hazelden Publishing
15251 Pleasant Valley Road
P.O. Box 11
Center City, MN 55012-0176
(800) 328-9000

Teen Dating Violence Prevention Resources

There are many reliable web sites with teen dating violence prevention information and resources. A list of helpful resources for parents, students, and staff has been provided in the web sites below.

Break the Cycle

Futures Without Violence

Intimate Partner Violence
(Center for Disease Control and Prevention)

Love is Not Abuse

Love is Respect

National Domestic Violence Hotline

National Sexual Violence Resource Center

Prevent Connect

Texas Council on Family Violence

Violence Against Women
(United States Department of Justice)

Teen Dating Abuse Prevention Trainings

  • Dating Matters is a free, online course available to educators, school personnel, youth leaders, and others working to improve the health of teens. It features interviews with leading experts, dynamic graphics, and interactive exercises, and compelling storytelling to describe what teen dating violence is and how to prevent it. Sponsored by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
  • The Oklahoma Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault (OCADVSA) provides training on Domestic Violence, Stalking, Prevention, and Bystander Intervention. Trainings can be tailored to fit your needs.
  • The Rape Prevention Education Program (RPE) at the Oklahoma State Department of Health provides technical assistance and training in Teen Dating Violence prevention. RPE will provide staff development training as well as assist schools in selecting the right prevention program, work with students, staff, and parents to implement the program, and coordinate with local service providers to connect victims of violence to resources.
  • "My Body... My Life..." is a women empowerment program developed by the Norman Police Department that uses simple verbal and physical cues and counters to avoid violence and empower the individual to remove themselves from the situation. The program is taught by Police Officers which addresses awareness empowerment, relationships, self-esteem and abuse, alcohol and drugs, internet and texting, as well as physical self defense techniques in female students. 

If you know a police officer interested in a training to teach this program, please contact:
Sergeant Robert Moore
(405) 321-1600

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Dating Violence?

Dating Violence is the use of harassing, controlling, and/or abusive behavior to maintain power and control over a partner in a romantic relationship. Anyone can be a victim of dating violence, regardless of age, race, or gender. Types of violence may include:

  • Physical. A dating partner is being physically hurt, may include hit, kicked, punched, shoved, or otherwise physically injured.
  • Emotional/Verbal. A dating partner is exposed to emotional attacks including jealousy, insults, isolation, harassment, or threats of harm to themselves or loved ones.
  • Sexual. A dating partner is coerced or forced to engage in sexual activity when they do not want or cannot give consent including kissing or touching.
  • Technological. Emotional/verbal or sexual abuse may involve technology like cell phones and the internet. It can also be called sexting or cyberbullying.

How do you prevent dating violence?

Stopping dating violence before it starts is the best way to keep teens safe from dating abuse. There are ways anyone can help prevent dating violence:

  • Learn more about healthy and unhealthy relationships.
  • Talk to your friends and family about healthy relationships, especially tweens and teens.
  • Support healthy relationship education in schools and youth groups.
  • Volunteer with your local domestic and sexual violence program, school, or youth group to help provide healthy relationship education.

How can I help a friend who is in an abusive relationship?

  • Listen to them and believe them.
  • Keep what they say confidential.
  • Encourage them to talk to an adult they trust like a parent, teacher, nurse, or counselor.
  • Give them web site resources (www.loveisrespect.org) and hotline numbers (1-866-331-9474)

Teen Dating Violence Statistics in Oklahoma

The 2011 Oklahoma Youth Risk Behavior Survey (YRBS) indicates that among high school students:

  • 7% of students reported they had been hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the last 12 months.
  • Students who had been physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend reported the following problems more often than students who had not been abused:
    • Depression in the last 12 months, 47% vs. 27%
    • Using Alcohol in the last 30 days, 73% vs. 36%

For additional statistics, the web sites listed below include Oklahoma Youth Risk Behavior Survey (YRBS) Data and Reports and the Oklahoma Prevention Needs Assessment  (OPNA) Survey Results.

Oklahoma YRBS Data - Outside Link

OPNA Results - Outside Link


A list of Evidence-based programs including pros and cons of each program. 

Evidence-Based Programs (pdf)

A dating violence fact sheet from the Oklahoma State Department of Health.

Dating Violence Fact Sheet (pdf)

Understanding Teen Dating Violence fact sheet from the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.

Understanding Teen Dating Violence Fact Sheet (pdf)

Teen Dating Violence, Oklahoma state law report card from Break the Cycle.

State Law Report Card (pdf)

State Department of Education's checkout library with resources on dating violence prevention.

Resource Library (pdf)

Thank you to the Injury Prevention Service of the Oklahoma State Department of Health for their assistance with this Web site. 

Last updated on December 28, 2017