Bullying has a negative effect on the social environment of schools, creates a climate of fear among students, inhibits the ability to learn, and leads to other antisocial behavior. Other detrimental effects of bullying include the impact on school safety, student engagement, and the overall school environment. Oklahoma state law declares that any form, type, or level of bullying is prohibited and that every incident of behavior that may constitute bullying should be taken seriously by school administrators, school staff (including teachers), students, and parents. Below is a list of frequently asked questions to help schools and parents understand and successfully prevent bullying behavior.
What are the warning signs of bullying?
What can I do if I am being bullied?
How can I avoid being bullied?
What do I do if my child is bullied?
How do I report bullying incidents at my child’s school?
How do I file a complaint on a school district?
Are there laws on bullying and harassment?
Can bullying be a civil rights violation?
Are schools required to educate students on bullying prevention?
What is in an effective bullying prevention policy?
What can I do if I witness a bullying incident?
How do you investigate bullying incidents?
How should we conduct interviews of the students involved in the incident?
What are appropriate consequences of engaging in bullying behavior?
How can we raise awareness on bullying prevention in our school?
What are ineffective ways to prevent bullying?
How do we prevent bullying in our school?
How do I prevent bullying on the school bus?
What can communities do about school bullying?
Where can I get more information?
There is not a specific, widely-adopted definition of bullying. Although definitions of bullying vary, most agree that bullying involves:
The following definitions are defined in the Oklahoma School Security Act to help recognize bullying behavior:
“Harassment, intimidation, and bullying means any gesture, written or verbal expression, electronic communication, or physical act that a reasonable person should know will harm another student, damage another student’s property, place another student in reasonable fear of harm to the student’s person or damage to the student’s property, or insult or demean any student or group of students in such a way as to disrupt or interfere with the school’s educational mission or the education of any student.”
“Threatening behavior means any pattern of behavior or isolated action, whether or not it is directed at another person, that a reasonable person would believe indicates potential for future harm to students, school personnel, or school property.”
Bullying has serious and lasting effects. Research has found bullying behavior causes increased mental health problems, increased thoughts of suicide, retaliation through extremely violent measures, decreased academic achievement, higher risk of abusing alcohol and other drugs, and truancy.
There are many warning signs that could indicate that a student is involved in bullying, either by bullying others or by being bullied. However, these warning signs may indicate other issues or problems, as well. Below is a list of common signs:
Being Bullied:
Bullying Others:
Click here for a reproducible resource on warning signs.
Bullying is wrong and it is not your fault. Everyone deserves to feel safe at school. Follow these steps if you are in a bullying situation:
Click here for a survey students can give to a trusted adult.
Bullying can be scary. Know that you are not alone. Follow these steps to help you avoid being in a bullying situation:
When your child is being bullied, it is hard to concentrate on anything else. All you want to do is make it stop. Follow the steps below to be the best possible advocate for your child in a bullying situation:
Teach your child how to report bullying incidents to adults in an effective way. Adults are less likely to discount a child’s report as “tattling” if the report includes what is being done to him that makes him fearful or uncomfortable, who is doing it, what he has done to try to resolve the problem or to get the bully to quit, if there were any witness to the incident, and a clear explanation of what he needs or wants from the adult to stop the bullying.
Bullying incidents should be reported through the school’s chain of command or to the policy indicated personnel, if applicable. In most cases, incidents are appropriately addressed with the classroom teacher. If you feel that the classroom teacher is not properly handling the situation, it is recommended that you notify the school principal in writing of the incident and carbon copy (cc) the district superintendent. A letter should state the facts of the incident (free of opinions or emotional statements), your desire for the incident to be resolved, and request a follow-up letter regarding the schools action in the incident. Provide any documentation you may have of the incident, including witnesses, doctor’s notes, police reports, cyberbullying online printouts, and other information appropriate to the incident. A letter can serve multiple purposes. It will alert school administration of the bullying, your desire for interventions against bullying, can serve as a written record when referring to incident, and provide documentation if you need to escalate the incident up the school’s chain of command.
If the school principal has not resolved the situation, the next step would be to notify the school district’s superintendent. Follow the same recommendations as notifying the school principal. If you would rather have a meeting to discuss the incident, request the meeting in writing and send a follow-up letter summarizing the discussion after the meeting. This will serve as a written record and provide documentation if you need to escalate the incident.
The final step in the school’s chain of command would be the locally elected school board members. You must submit your written request to the school board president or policy indicated personnel to be placed on the school board meeting agenda. School board meetings are subject to the Open Meetings Act.
Click here for a sample letter.
Click here for a incident report form.
Click here for a witness report form.
Click here for the reproducible contact chart poster.
A quick chart of who to contact regarding bullying behavior at school[ii]:
Is someone at immediate risk of harm? |
Contact local law enforcement. (911 or School Resource Officer) |
Is your child feeling suicidal? |
Contact the suicide prevention lifeline. 800-273-TALK (8255)(www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) |
Is your child's teacher not keeping your child safe? |
Contact your school principal. |
Is your school principal not keeping your child safe? |
Contact your local school administrator. |
Is your school administrator not keeping your child safe? |
Contact your local school board. |
Is your child still unsafe without school help? |
Contact the State Department of Education. |
Is your child sick, stressed, or having other problems because of bullying? |
Contact your school counselor or a mental health professional. |
Is your child bullied because of their race, ethnicity, or disability without local help? |
Contact the US Department of Education’s |
Upon receipt of your complaint, the State Department of Education (SDE) staff will receive all information and documentation to determine whether there is evidence of noncompliance with state law. The SDE does not have authority to investigate complaints of bullying or harassment. This information is submitted soley for purposes of assisting the monitoring compliance with state bullying statutes. All information below must be provided with the complaint form to be evaluated by SDE staff. This complain may be shared with District officials by SDE staff during the compliance review process.
Required Documentation:
There are three state laws that address and prohibit bullying, harassment, and intimidation.
State Laws:
The School Bullying Prevention Act, became effective November 1, 2002, requires the school board of each district to adopt a policy for the control and discipline of all children attending public school in that district by specifically prohibiting harassment, intimidation, and bullying by students at school and to address prevention of and education about such behavior. In developing this policy, the local Boards of Education shall make an effort to involve the teachers, parents, and students affected. Students, parents, and teachers shall be notified by the district’s Board of Education of its adoption of the policy.
The law further states that each public school site shall establish a Safe School Committee. The Committee is to be composed of at least six members, consisting of an equal number of teachers, parents of the children affected, and students. Safe school committees shall study and make recommendations regarding: Student harassment, intimidation, and bullying at school, professional development needs of faculty and staff to implement methods to decrease this behavior, methods to encourage involvement of community and students, and the development of individual relationships between students and staff and the use of problem-solving teams. The Safe School Committee shall review traditional prevention programs utilized by other states, state agencies, or school districts.
The Oklahoma School Security Act, became effective November 1, 2008, amended the School Bullying Prevention Act. This Act required all districts to add “electronic communication” and “threatening behavior” to their bullying prevention policy. In addition to their policy, districts are to establish a procedure for the investigation of all reported incidents for the purpose of determining the severity of the incidents and their potential to result in future violence. Districts are also required to establish a procedure where a school may recommend that available community mental health care options are provided to the student and disclose information concerning students who have received mental health care.
The law further states that each public school site shall add an additional member to the Safe School Committee. This additional member shall be a school official who participates in the investigation of reports of harassment, intimidation, bullying, and threatening behavior. The State Board of Education shall promulgate rules for monitoring school districts for compliance and provide sanctions for noncompliance with the Act.
Schools that receive federal funding are required by federal law to address discrimination on a number of different personal characteristics. The statutes the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR) enforces include:
School districts may violate these civil rights statutes and the U.S. Department of Education’s implementing regulations when peer harassment based on race, color, national origin, sex, or disability is sufficiently serious that it creates a hostile environment and such harassment is encouraged, tolerated, not adequately addressed, or ignored by school employees.
While current laws enforced by OCR do not protect against harassment based on religion or sexual orientation, they do include protection against harassment of members of religious groups based on shared ethnic characteristics as well as gender-based and sexual harassment of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals. [iii]
If you or your child is being bullied based on the different personal characteristics listed above without help from the district, contact the United States Department of Education's Office of Civil Rights to file a complaint.
Click here to learn more about OCR complaint process.
Whether or not the bullying is related to the student’s disability, any bullying of a student with a disability that results in the student not receiving meaningful educational benefit constitutes a denial of FAPE under the IDEA that must be remedied. States and school districts have a responsibility under the IDEA, 20 U.S.C. § 1400, et seq., to ensure that FAPE in the least restrictive environment (LRE) is made available to eligible students with disabilities. In order for a student to receive FAPE, the student’s individualized education program (IEP) must be reasonably calculated to provide meaningful educational benefit.
Schools have an obligation to ensure that a student with a disability who is the target of bullying behavior continues to receive FAPE in accordance with his or her IEP. The school should, as part of its appropriate response to the bullying
If the student who engaged in the bullying behavior is a student with a disability, the IEP Team should review the student’s IEP to determine if additional supports and services are needed to address the inappropriate behavior. In addition, the IEP Team and other school personnel should consider examining the environment in which the bullying occurred to determine if changes to the environment are warranted.
In addition to the State and Federal law requirements, there are specific academic standards for health/safety education. The Oklahoma C³ Standards for Health and Safety (formerly Priority Academic Student Skills) represent standards that describe what students should know concerning health and safety. The standards are categorized under the following: Health and Safety Literacy, Responsible Health and Safety Behavior, and Health and Safety Advocacy. Addressing bullying prevention in your school will help you meet the following standards:
Health/Safety Education Grades 1-4
Standard 4:
Standard 5:
Health/Safety Education Grades 5-8
Standard 1:
Standard 3:
Health/Safety Education Grades 9-12
Standard 6:
Click here for all of the Oklahoma C³ Standards for Health and Safety Education.
Do not pass a policy to meet the law, pass an effective policy to eliminate bullying. The purpose of a policy is to prohibit harassment, intimidation, bullying, and threatening behavior, provide options for the methods of control and discipline of the students, and shall define standards of conduct to which students are expected to conform. Effective policies prohibiting harassment, intimidation, and bullying should include:
Click here for a USDE review of laws and policies.
If you witness a bullying incident, follow the steps below to appropriate intervene and address the incident:
*To avoid escalating the tension, you may wait until later to sort out the facts.
Click here for a witness report form.
The purpose of investigating reported incidents is to determine the behavior, the severity of the incident, and their potential to result in future violence. Please review the following definitions that are defined in the Oklahoma School Security Act to help recognize bullying behavior:
“Harassment, intimidation, and bullying means any gesture, written, or verbal expression, electronic communication, or physical act that a reasonable person should know will harm another student, damage another student’s property, place another student in reasonable fear of harm to the student’s person or damage to the student’s property, or insult or demean any student or group of students in such a way as to disrupt or interfere with the school’s educational mission or the education of any student.”
“Threatening behavior means any pattern of behavior or isolated action, whether or not it is directed at another person, that a reasonable person would believe indicates the potential for future harm to students, school personnel, or school property.”
Using existing investigation procedures and roles may help keep the requirements of compliance manageable. It is recommended that the district use a single investigation form and have an investigation team to help with consistency of all incident investigation. In many cases involving bullying and harassment, parents have reported to the State Department of Education that they have tried to call attention to incidents many times without action taken by the district. Reports that are met with inaction will create the sense that the school is not serious about dealing with bullying and harassment, regardless of whether school staff considers that to be the case. Once a school has received notice of harassment, intimidation, bullying, or threatening behavior, it should begin an investigation as soon as possible to determine what occurred, the severity of the incident, and their potential to result in future violence.
Click here for a sample investigation form.
All parties involved should be interviewed and written statements should be taken. These statements should be obtained separately and all possible steps should be taken to prevent retaliation. All interviews, regardless of whether they are with victim, offender, or witnesses, should follow local board adopted policy. The bullying prevention policy should be reviewed with all parties involved, as well as the investigation procedure. The investigator should be neutral of the incident. If the investigator is involved in the incident, a replacement investigator should conduct the investigation.
Parents should be notified as allowed by state and federal law. Parents are more likely to feel the school is addressing the situation if they are involved in the investigation process. It is recommended that the parents of the students involved be notified of the incident, the investigation procedures and interview. After the notification, it is also recommended that a follow-up letter is sent to the parent with the bullying prevention policy to provide additional documentation of the incident investigation to comply with state and federal laws.
Click here for sample interview statement form.
A wide range of options are available for consequences of bullying behavior. In general, consequences should be scaled in relation to the severity of the incident. More severe consequences such as suspension or referral to law enforcement should be considered as the student’s misconduct becomes severe, outrageous, or repeated. Some of these options are presented below, rank ordered by severity.
*Cyberbullying discipline could be to submit a report the “old-fashioned way” by writing it instead of using a computer. They will learn what it is like to not be able to use technology, which should promote a greater respect for those tools.
Sample student behavior contract
One-time shots are insufficient for changing a climate of bullying or producing sustainable effects. It is suggested that a multi-tiered approach is an effective way to prevent bullying. Attention is focused on creating and sustaining primary (school-wide), secondary (classroom), and tertiary (individual) systems of support that improve lifestyle results for all children and youth by making targeted behaviors less effective, efficient, and relevant, and desired behavior more functional.[v] The primary tier is the universal system of support geared towards all students in the school, the secondary tier is the selected interventions to support at risk students, and the tertiary tier is the indicated interventions for students already involved in bullying. Below is a list of universal approaches:
Click here for an example of community campaigns.
Click here for CDC developed student surveys.
In recent years, increasing numbers of educators, health professionals, parents, and other adults who interact with students have come to understand the seriousness of bullying. Many proven and promising prevention and intervention strategies have been developed. Unfortunately, some misdirected intervention and prevention strategies also have emerged. Research has shown that the following are strategies that do not work or have unexpected negative consequences.
Click here for a staff bullying survey.
Click here for CDC developed student surveys.
The same strategies for preventing bullying at school can apply to preventing bullying on the school bus. There are other strategies to address and prevent bullying behaviors specifically on the bus.
Bullying does not begin and end at the school doors. Bullying is not a school problem, it is a community problem. Community members play a large role in effectively preventing school bullying by providing a united front to prohibit bullying. All community members play a vital part and can share their expertise, resources, and skills. Community members can contribute support to combat bullying by taking the following actions:
Sample anti-bullying community pledge
Examples of what communities are doing
For additional questions you may contact:
Elizabeth Suddath, MPH
Executive Director of Prevention Services Oklahoma State Department of Education 2500 North Lincoln Boulevard Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73105 Email: [email protected] Phone: 405-521-2106 Fax: 405-522-0496 |
Beth Whittle, M.Ed, LPC
Executive Director of Counseling Oklahoma State Department of Education 2500 North Lincoln Boulevard Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73105 Email: [email protected] Phone: 405-521-3549 Fax: 405-522-0496 |
[i] United States Government Bullying Prevention Web Site. What is Bullying? stopbullying.gov
[ii] Adapted from United States Government Bullying Prevention Web Site. How do I get help? stopbullying.gov
[iii] United States Government Bullying Prevention Web Site. When Bullying May be a Civil Rights Violation. stopbullying.gov
[iv] United States Department of Education Dear Colleague Letter. October 26, 2010. Harassment and Bullying. www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/letters/colleague-201010.pdf
[v] Positive Behavior Interventions and Support. Continuum of School-Wide Instructional and Positive Behavior Support. www.pbis.org
[vi] United States Government Bullying Prevention Web Site. Follow-up Intervention. stopbullying.gov
[vii] Pupil Transportation Safety Institute. www.ptsi.org/